{"product_id":"useful-not-true-9780473453046","title":"Useful Not True","description":"\u003cp\u003ePersonal effectiveness: \u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003e\"Useful Not True\" is about reframing.\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eSuccess in anything starts with your perspective which affects your strategy - your actions.\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eYour first thought (\"this is a disaster\") feels true, but it's not the only perspective.\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eYour first thought is an obstacle you need to get past by realizing no thoughts are necessarily true.\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eAfter your initial impulse, consider other perspectives, then choose the thought that's more useful to you - the one that makes you take effective actions.\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eUnderstanding others: \u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003ePeople share perspectives, not facts. They tell you how they see things.\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eLike someone across the world telling you the time. Maybe it's true for them, but not for you, and not for most other people.\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eBrains lie to their owners. Nobody knows the real reasons why they do anything.\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eWhen someone says, \"I believe...\", then whatever they say next is not a fact. No beliefs are necessarily true.\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eBeliefs are perspectives. Explanations are confabulated. Obligations are wishes. Rules are arbitrary. They're useful, but not necessarily true.\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eKnowing this gives you empathy, as you understand people's incentives behind their beliefs.\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cbr\u003e","brand":"Hit Media","offers":[{"title":"Default Title","offer_id":51603197296914,"sku":"9780473453046","price":8.99,"currency_code":"USD","in_stock":true}],"thumbnail_url":"\/\/cdn.shopify.com\/s\/files\/1\/0831\/4771\/8930\/files\/img_75213bc5-0a46-4d18-8ed7-bb20e643f6f8.jpg?v=1757429155","url":"https:\/\/surprise-castle.myshopify.com\/products\/useful-not-true-9780473453046","provider":"Surprise Castle","version":"1.0","type":"link"}