{"product_id":"it-takes-one-to-tango-how-i-rescued-my-marriage-with-almost-no-help-from-my-spouse-and-how-you-can-too-9781501125867","title":"It Takes One to Tango: How I Rescued My Marriage with (Almost) No Help from My Spouse--And How You Can, Too","description":"With a focus on self-empowerment and resilience, this refreshing and witty relationship guide has a reassuring counterintuitive message for unhappy spouses: you only need one partner to initiate far-reaching positive change in a marriage.Conventional wisdom says that \"it takes two\" to turn a troubled marriage around and that both partners must have a shared commitment to change. So when couples can't agree on how--or whether--to make their marriage better, many give up or settle for a less-than-satisfying marriage (or think the only way out is divorce). Fortunately, there is an alternative. \"What distinguishes Reilly's book is that she says a warring couple don't have to agree on the goal of staying together; it takes one person changing, not both, to make a marriage work\" (The New York Times). Marriage and family therapist Winifred Reilly has this message for struggling partners: Take the lead. Doing so is effective--and powerful. Through Reilly's own story of reclaiming her now nearly forty-year marriage, along with anecdotes from many clients she's worked with, you'll learn how to: -Focus on your own behaviors and change them in ways that make you feel good about yourself and your marriage -Take a firm stand for what truly matters to you without arguing, cajoling, or resorting to threats -Identify the \"big picture\" issues at the basis of your repetitive fights--and learn how to unhook from them -Be less reactive, especially in the face of your spouse's provocations -Develop the strength and stamina to be the sole agent of change Combining psychological theory, practical advice, and personal narrative, It Takes One to Tango is a \"wise and uplifting\" (Dr. Ellyn Bader, Director of The Couples Institute) guide that will empower those who choose to take a bold, proactive approach to creating a loving and lasting marriage.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cb\u003eAbout the Author\u003c\/b\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cb\u003e\u003ci\u003eReilly, Winifred M.:\u003c\/i\u003e\u003c\/b\u003e - Winifred M. Reilly is a marriage and family therapist, with a private practice in Berkeley, California. In her thirty-five years of clinical practice she has treated hundreds of couples--many of whom felt certain they were headed for divorce. Winifred has been a guest lecturer on marriage and sexuality, and her writing has appeared on \u003ci\u003eHuffington Post\u003c\/i\u003e, \u003ci\u003eThe Good Men\u003c\/i\u003e \u003ci\u003eProject\u003c\/i\u003e, \u003ci\u003exoJane\u003c\/i\u003e, and on her relationship advice blog, \u003ci\u003eSpeaking\u003c\/i\u003e \u003ci\u003eof Marriage\u003c\/i\u003e. She is the author of\u003ci\u003e It Takes One to Tango\u003c\/i\u003e.","brand":"Gallery Books","offers":[{"title":"Default Title","offer_id":50669670564114,"sku":"9781501125867","price":13.99,"currency_code":"USD","in_stock":true}],"thumbnail_url":"\/\/cdn.shopify.com\/s\/files\/1\/0831\/4771\/8930\/files\/img_aa89f591-d618-4177-a535-b7bac7bea142.jpg?v=1733763259","url":"https:\/\/surprise-castle.myshopify.com\/products\/it-takes-one-to-tango-how-i-rescued-my-marriage-with-almost-no-help-from-my-spouse-and-how-you-can-too-9781501125867","provider":"Surprise Castle","version":"1.0","type":"link"}