{"product_id":"how-can-i-forgive-you-the-courage-to-forgive-the-freedom-not-to-9780063219069","title":"How Can I Forgive You?: The Courage to Forgive, the Freedom Not to","description":"\u003cp\u003e\u003cstrong\u003e\"If you are struggling with issues of betrayal--or the challenge of whether and how to forgive--here is the most helpful and surprising book you will ever find on the subject.\"--Harriet Lerner, Ph.D., author of \u003cem\u003eThe Dance of Anger\u003c\/em\u003e\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003e\u003cstrong\u003eEveryone is struggling to forgive someone: an unfaithful partner, an alcoholic parent, an ungrateful child, a terrorist. This award-winning book, recently updated with a new afterword by the author, provides a radical way for hurt parties to heal themselves--without forgiving, as well as a way for offenders to earn genuine forgiveness.\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eUntil now, we've been taught that forgiveness is good for us and that good people forgive. Dr. Janis Abrahms Spring, a gifted clinical psychologist and award-winning author of \u003cem\u003eAfter the Affair, \u003c\/em\u003e proposes a radical, life-affirming alternative that lets us overcome the corrosive effects of hate and get on with our lives--without forgiving. She also offers a powerful and unconventional model for earning genuine forgiveness--one that asks as much of the offender as it does of the hurt party.\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eBeautifully written and filled with insight, practical advice, and poignant case studies, this bold and healing book offers step-by-step, concrete instructions that help us make peace with others and ourselves, while answering such crucial questions as these: \u003c\/p\u003e\u003cul\u003eHow do I forgive someone who is unremorseful or dead?When is forgiveness cheap?Can I heal myself - without forgiving?How can the offender earn forgiveness?What makes for a good apology?How do we forgive ourselves for hurting another human being?\u003c\/ul\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cb\u003eAbout the Author\u003c\/b\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cb\u003e\u003ci\u003eSpring, Janis a.:\u003c\/i\u003e\u003c\/b\u003e - \u003cp\u003eJanis Abrahms Spring, Ph.D., is a nationally acclaimed expert on issues of trust, intimacy, and forgiveness. In private practice in Westport, Connecticut, she is the author of the award-winning \u003cem\u003eHow Can I Forgive You?, The Courage to Forgive, the Freedom Not To, \u003c\/em\u003eand\u003cem\u003e Life with Pop: Lessons on Caring for an Aging Parent.\u003c\/em\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e","brand":"Harper Paperbacks","offers":[{"title":"Default Title","offer_id":50862342013202,"sku":"9780063219069","price":12.99,"currency_code":"USD","in_stock":false}],"thumbnail_url":"\/\/cdn.shopify.com\/s\/files\/1\/0831\/4771\/8930\/files\/img_f293ada4-2e46-4dac-bd8d-f49b770db7c2.jpg?v=1737620761","url":"https:\/\/surprise-castle.myshopify.com\/products\/how-can-i-forgive-you-the-courage-to-forgive-the-freedom-not-to-9780063219069","provider":"Surprise Castle","version":"1.0","type":"link"}